Most things in life can be lost. You can lose your job, but if you try hard enough you will find another. You can lose a valuable document but you can find it again because it will exist somewhere... You can lose your car keys, but press the bleeper and hopefully you find them again. You can lose your fitness through injury etc.
Using those losses as examples, will you not learn from the experience and the frustration associated with it? Will you try harder in your next job to ensure that you keep it? Try harder to maintain your paperwork files so that you can instantly pick up that valuable document next time? Have a special hook for your keys? Train harder for the next race?
And yet how many of us will allow those losses to happen again?
If you adopt a more systematic approach to these losses can you prevent them happening again?
I am going to answer at least one of these questions with a resounding yes. I have always had issues with losing paperwork. I finally "flipped" one day and took the time out to think and develop a very simple system to ensure I always knew where everything was. And it works! For several months I have been able to go straight to every slip of paper or document that I want - this is after years of serious panicking when tax renewals, trips abroad etc suddenly came up! Also, finding my fitness again after a lay off from running? Simple, followed a different training plan! I did not give up, merely changed my approach and learned a very valuable lesson...
Therefore if a systematic approach can work for most losses, can it be used to find true love that has been lost? Warning - probably not a good idea to use a systematic approach to find it in the first place, kind of defeats the romantic ideal belief!! "Belief" and "systematic approach" kind of contradict each other....
I know that in order to find true love you have to actually believe in true love, to believe in the romantic ideal and be open minded at the same time as to what is achieveable - no fixed agenda for any criteria that needs to be met.
To find true love again requires even stronger beliefs, much deeper desire and want.
To believe again you have to know why you lost it in the first place, and forgive that reason whether it be an event a circumstance or a past memory. To forgive is one of the hardest acts we as human beings ever have to do. To forgive you have to understand why, to understand why you have to ask questions and achieve the answers. When you have the answers, you will be given the ability to understand. If you allow yourself to understand you will be able to forgive.
I do not think it is good to just forgive and forget, instead remember how you were able to do it and when you have to forgive the next time, try the same approach that worked before. Or try another approach, but always try and ensure you can confidently offer that forgiveness. It is a very negative burden on the mind if you are not able to do so. But it is a phenomenal positive if you can! Hugely powerful! Some of the answers will be harder to achieve than others, because you have to make sure that you are asking the best questions for the circumstances.
And what if you do not actually know what caused the true love to be lost. What if you woke up one morning and you just did not feel it anymore? Can that happen? How do you fix that one? Can you lose the feeling of true love if you lose yourself? If your mind demons temporarily take control of your thoughts. Convince you of things that are not true and make you believe in a different world than is the reality. Or do you only lose the true love after you have lost yourself? Is this another case of a symbiotic relationship?
Returning to the question of using a systematic approach to find true love again. I personally do not know if it can work as I have not truly tried. Maybe it can work, or maybe it cannot purely because it involves the emotions and feelings of another being. But I have tried the systematic approach to forgiveness in many areas and I can confirm that it does work for me.
